Nothing comes easily, though some things come naturally.
I just made up that aphorism, or at least, I didn’t Google it first. Along with my New Years Resolutions to drink more, hang up my clothes when I come home from work, and caretake, I have added to my resolves the at times bewildering task of pursuing hospitality.
It comes from a long tradition of realizing that life is lived better with intention, goal setting, and clearly articulated mission statements. Though these things are forgotten at times, and I have to come back around to them after neglecting these healthy thoughts in favor of junk food single serving gratification, inevitably I do.
Pursuing hospitality can mean spending money, but also valuable time. It can mean cleaning out the large tupperware container at my house containing diamond hard marshmallows and making a list of things to put into a “Let’s have a fire at my house” box. It can mean reminding myself to get birthday gifts, write cards, and shop for others. It is remembering to send a card, ask to participate in someone’s favorite activity, which may certainly not be mine. It may mean all of these things being forefront at my mind, at times when I want nothing else but to do only what I want. How difficult! How hard.
But the payoff is big, and the first fire of the year at my house was a success, and the third journey to Dogtown was a success, and the first trip to Beverly’s Dick and June’s for a wonderful Banana Chocolate froyo was a success as well. And all of these activities counted toward pursuing hospitality.